In 2012, after Christina Guerra and her sister Michelle Douthitt lost their husbands within months of each other, they decided to transform their grief into a new chapter of their lives. Along with their longtime friend, Muriel Lanford, the women chose a bold and unconventional path: selling their homes and purchasing five acres of land in Fair Oaks Ranch, Texas, for $175,000. Their dream was to create a space where they could grow old together.

The Decision to Build a Communal Home

Despite skepticism from some people around them, Guerra, Douthitt, and Lanford were undeterred. “A lot of people gave us strange looks when we talked about our plan,” Guerra shared. “But we believed in it, and we were determined.” They saw themselves as the real-life counterparts to the witty, strong-willed women of The Golden Girls, embracing the idea of living together while maintaining their independence.

Designing Their Dream Home: Tierra de Dios

In 2017, the women moved into their custom-built compound, named Tierra de Dios (“Land of God”). The compound, designed by architect Felix Ziga, consists of a 2,378-square-foot main house for Guerra and Douthitt, each with their own private wing, and a separate 1,902-square-foot home for Lanford. The total cost of the project was about $1.2 million, including the cost of the land, which the women shared equally.

Overcoming Challenges: Securing a Mortgage

One of their biggest hurdles was securing a mortgage for the property. Instead of forming a corporation or LLC, the women opted for a general partnership. “You’d think it would be straightforward,” Guerra said, “but the bankers couldn’t wrap their heads around it.” After a lengthy process, the trio successfully secured the mortgage.

Designing for the Future: Aging in Place

The women’s vision for the compound extended far beyond just a home; they wanted a space that would support their aging process. Accessibility was a key consideration throughout the design process. The homes were built with minimal steps, wide doorways, and wheelchair-accessible features to ensure comfort as they grow older. The compound also includes outdoor spaces for communal activities and private areas where each woman can retreat when needed.

Creating a Community: A Home for All

The women’s desire for community was as important as their need for privacy. While each had their own separate living spaces, they also created shared areas for socializing and relaxation. The compound features a large, two-story overlook with sweeping views of the surrounding woods, which has become one of their favorite gathering spots.

Individual Roles in the Home

Each woman has a distinct role in the management of the compound. Lanford, the master gardener and handyman, oversees maintenance tasks and manages the finances. Douthitt, a volunteer for a human trafficking organization, supports the home by helping out with repairs and chores. Guerra, who is known as the bargain hunter, handles negotiations for supplies and ensures they get the best deals.

Maintaining a Balanced Lifestyle

Living together, even as adults, can present challenges, but the women have found a way to make it work. “Living with my oldest sister has had its challenges,” Douthitt admitted, “but the benefits far exceed anything. We’re able to enjoy each other’s company and support one another.” The women also maintain a lighthearted and fun atmosphere, with Guerra occasionally cooking meals for everyone.

A Haven for Wildlife: Monarch Butterflies and More

One of the highlights of Tierra de Dios is its designation as a butterfly sanctuary and wildlife habitat. “We are a Monarch butterfly way station,” Guerra said proudly. The women care for all the creatures that visit their property, including squirrels, birds, and other wildlife. “Michelle loves to name the creatures,” Guerra added, showing the close bond the women share with their environment.

A Strong Community: Benefits of Communal Living

For the women, the sense of community they’ve built together is invaluable. “During COVID, we cooked together, streamed movies together, and played games,” Guerra recalled. “We didn’t really feel the lockdown as much because we had each other.” The trio has found a supportive environment where they can thrive together, living their dream of a communal home where their lives intertwine with nature and friendship.